6 Traits of Truly Confident People
People like confident individuals. Period.
Now it is not because they are superior beings that radiate energy, but because they offer a sense of security, a sense of reassurance, a sense of leadership, and a sense of warmth. Ironically, they don’t explicitly offer you any of these things. It is something you realize just by being around them. It is in your head where they become superior.
So, if you’re on a quest to find the traits of “truly” confident people, how will you know it when you meet one?
Truth is, you’ll just know it. Because —
1. It shows in the way they conduct themselves:
Confident people have a sense of calmness about their behavior. They may get rushed but it never seems that way.
If you’ve come across someone whom you admired for the way they speak, for the way they conduct themselves — and wished if you could be the same someday — then you’ve probably come across one.
It is also true that pseudo-confident people project confidence in a similar way. But chances are if you’ve known them long enough, you know it is fake. Such people bring their bravado in between and sooner or later, show their true self.
2. It is not explicit.
Confidence isn’t loud. It is quiet. As quiet as the hands of a clock, you know that something’s up-
Is it the TV? Is it your phone or Is it something from the kitchen? It could be the rat you saw last night. Yes, it is the rat.
It is only a little later do you realize that it was the clock on your table.
Confident people don’t need a raised voice to assert themselves on you. Instead, they’ll convince you into it. It is a natural ability that they possess.
3. They don’t stress about the past or the future.
Confident people don’t ruminate over things of the past. Or the future for that matter.
They realize that though they failed this same exam last year, this is a new attempt and the odds of them passing are the same as before.
Similarly, they know it is not given they’ll achieve their financial goals by 30 or publish an international bestseller, what matters is that they continue working towards it.
4. They can’t know everything and they know it.
Confident people are ready to learn.
They will admit it to you and others if they don’t know something and ask for help. They realize that it is in their best interest to seek help from someone than mull over what they might think of you.
5. You can prove them wrong and they’ll thank you for it.
Confident people listen to what you have to say.
They’ll consider your opinion with an open mind, put it against theirs and then judge if they were right. If not, they’ll accept it graciously and thank you for the perspective. If yes, they’ll correct you and sensibly back-off if you’re not willing to listen.
They don’t feel the need to impose their opinion on others.
6. They don’t compare their victories or struggles with others
Truly confident people don’t compare themselves to others.
They are equally happy for their friend’s success as they are for their own. They realize that everyone has their path in life, and thereby it is useless to spend time thinking over the achievements and accolades of others.
As Eleanor Roosevelt said,
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
And consent is very important.
Conclusion
Confident people are not celestial beings, they are humans just like you and me. We admire them because we want to be the person who doesn’t crave for validation. A person who can maintain their individuality while being absorbed in a team activity. The first step towards becoming confident is to respect yourself.
